Blog by Sumana Harihareswara, Changeset founder

22 Apr 2006, 12:19 p.m.

To Love And To Cherish

Hi, reader. I wrote this in 2006 and it's now more than five years old. So it may be very out of date; the world, and I, have changed a lot since I wrote it! I'm keeping this up for historical archive purposes, but the me of today may 100% disagree with what I said then. I rarely edit posts after publishing them, but if I do, I usually leave a note in italics to mark the edit and the reason. If this post is particularly offensive or breaches someone's privacy, please contact me.

Leonard and I married each other yesterday. Our friend Camille took pictures.

As Leonard mentioned, we need for nothing except your good wishes and your advice. In celebration, I've turned on comments for this entry. Please tell us your hard-earned wisdom to keep our union strong and loving. This is the biggest project I've ever undertaken, and your words are more than welcome.


22 Apr 2006, 13:01 p.m.

Test comment!

22 Apr 2006, 13:09 p.m.

Another test comment!

22 Apr 2006, 22:48 p.m.

test comment!

23 Apr 2006, 15:09 p.m.


24 Apr 2006, 11:50 a.m.

test shmest, May the two of you be fighting over the remote well into your 80s [remote is obviously for the IntelliHomeValet2020 to make some espresso]!<br/>

24 Apr 2006, 15:48 p.m.

Yay for comments. Yay for getting married.

This comment is for another post, but I liked your list of things you can do now that you are married.

Best wishes for you and your new husband.

24 Apr 2006, 17:07 p.m.

Congratulations! I am so happy for you both.

24 Apr 2006, 20:03 p.m.

Congratulations, Sumana and Leonard! This is wonderful news. I was all ready to head out to U-Dig Fossils and unearth a wedding gift, but I'll honor your request and just offer advice. As someone once told us, remember that there are many ways to express love: through words, acts of service, gifts, physical affection and time spent together, to name a few. Continually find new ways to express your love for your partner, and learn to recognize the different ways your partner expresses his/her love for you. It's not all "I love you" and chocolates (though it could be!).

Enough pontificating. Congratulations again! Best wishes on a long and wonderful life together.

24 Apr 2006, 21:24 p.m.

Congraulations! I think you two have the right idea about marriage and how to go about dealing with it. Just continue to be good to each other.

25 Apr 2006, 9:59 a.m.

I have been married over 4 yrs and I still don't know what I am doing. Marriage is hard, but if you stay and work at it, it will be successful and fulfilling. Best Wishes and try to milk the Newlywed phase for at least a year!

26 Apr 2006, 19:04 p.m.

Many happy thoughts headed your way! I truly hope that you continue to have a very fulfilling life together! I find it slightly funny that Andy was at the wedding,'s only been recently that you've confirmed that he does indeed exist and now he's one of three people present at the wedding! it's strange how people pop in and out of each other's life :)

27 Apr 2006, 17:35 p.m.

Congrats on your making the decision to marry and to marry into our family :) I haven't met you yet, which is odd considering the taimes we have written, but I am excited for you both. I hear marriage is a great thing, and hope sometime I am daring enough to take the plunge!!!