Blog by Sumana Harihareswara, Changeset founder

13 Feb 2007, 21:10 p.m.


Hi, reader. I wrote this in 2007 and it's now more than five years old. So it may be very out of date; the world, and I, have changed a lot since I wrote it! I'm keeping this up for historical archive purposes, but the me of today may 100% disagree with what I said then. I rarely edit posts after publishing them, but if I do, I usually leave a note in italics to mark the edit and the reason. If this post is particularly offensive or breaches someone's privacy, please contact me.

Every year I try not to pay attention to Valentine's Day or the Academy Awards, and every year I catch them out of the corner of an eye. They're manufactured fusses, and the more secure you feel the less anxiety you feel about them.


14 Feb 2007, 11:31 a.m.

Ya know, Valentine's doesn't have to be about "manufactured fusses." It can just be a nice day to remind us to show our love in a different, more extroverted way. Like making the bed for a change, surprising your significant other with a black and white cookie from the bakery, making a homemade card with a special message, etc.

Can't help ya with Academy Awards.

Eric Fischer
14 Feb 2007, 13:57 p.m.

Oh, how I wish I had your powers of ignoring cultural baggage!

14 Feb 2007, 14:22 p.m.

Eric: you talking to me or John? I try; I don't always succeed.

15 Feb 2007, 10:22 a.m.

I agree with both of you: Valentine's Day IS a manufactured fuss, but it doesn't have to be. Even in my lonely days I think I was too much of a romantic not to smile when other people got flowers. I think the holiday does a lot for people like me and John - we're a loving couple but a reminder to make a special dinner or write a little note can be fun.

15 Feb 2007, 10:42 a.m.

I hope you had a good V-day nonetheless.

16 Feb 2007, 12:09 p.m.

I deleted my earlier comment from the 14th; it was hurtful.

Kristen: I did have a good V-Day, thanks!